Day 93 – April 3, 2019
Got involved in a little discussion with a couple students today about the importance of Facebook and whether someone should “friend” someone who they just met, or met through a mutual friend, but have no intention of seeing again. Is it just a number. How many of those friends do you actually interact with and have any real personal discussions. I shared with them how I have now been social media free for a year, and how refreshing it was. Of course, they were intrigued about how I stay up to date on things, whether I missed it, if I was penitent, etc. It was hard at first, but it wasn’t long until it completely left my mind. I told them that it is pretty sobering, because when you no longer have access to those “contacts” you find out how many really true “friends” you have, because that’s how many text you to find outfit everything is alright, how you are doing and vice versa. I shared that when I left Facebook, because I have been teaching a very long time, my number of friends, followers, etc was pretty high. Granted I didn’t talk to them all every day, I did keep up with many, I knew them and they were more than just “acquaintances”. So they were startled to learn that out of that many friends, in the past year, perhaps 10, maybe 15 have reached out to me, unsolicited. Now I didn’t, and don’t, expect many to have, but there were some that I was surprised not to hear from, or worse, have respond to something sent to them. The kids were really surprised and started to really think more about it. They articulated a couple of things that may play into that. The one they spent the most time was the observation that it was too inconvenient for so many. When you don’t have the option of clicking on a heart or thumbs up and you are forced to text more than 3 words, that is saved for only the closest of friends. One of the kids asked the question how many of us receive a text from someone, and don’t respond right away when all you had to do was type yes or no or something as easy as “k”. And why? Inconvenience. Mind games? It wasn’t necessarily always like that for everyone, but when asked to really think about it, all of the kids involved in the conversation were guilty of doing it at least once a week. It was a pretty cool self – reflection. Of course, I did challenge them to go 2 weeks without and see what happens. Find out how many of their friends reach out to see what happened or if everything is ok, or just saying hi. If they really want a more accurate count, do it over the summer when they aren’t seeing friends every day at school. I don’t think any of them actually will. I think they may be a little nervous about what might be revealed.
I am not sure why I shared that. I think it’s just something I wanted to have on record. Because it has absolutely nothing to do with my shot. This is a porch from a house right off of the center of town where everyone passes by. I am not sure what most people think. I would guess most would see it as an eye sore. But, I see a porch full of memories, a place of peace and meditation. Of course, I am the one who doesn’t have friends so any place I can go that is full of memories is a good place.